Thursday, May 21, 2009
My two older men
These are my two older boys Travis on top and Cody on bottom of photo. Travis is my 12 year old and Cody is my 11 year old step son. Growing up I wanted to get married you know with the wight dress and beautifully decorated church and the wonderful reception and the HONEYMOON!!!!! Then I wanted to have a family with my husband and live happily ever after. Well as you all know things don't always work out the way we want it to. On New Years eve 1995 going into 1996 was the night that changed my life forever. Long story short without details LOL I got pregnant that night. I was 15 years old and didn't know what to do. I went to my sister for help and she was by my side when I found out that I was indeed pregnant. I was lost I had no idea what I was going to do. I mean I was 15 i was still a kid myself and how the heck was I going to tell my parents that thier baby was going to have a baby. Well I told my parents 13 years ago today that i was pregnant with my sister and her busband Bill by my side. My poor mom cried and my Daddy laughed and said he thought it would have been Tessa my sister since she was older and engaged to be married. Then they found out that it was their best friends son that was the father and that was another blow. Well after the shock wore off my parents hugged me and said well this is what we are going to do and they basically laid out the plan and that is what I needed was my mommy and daddy to help me figure out where i needed to go from there. Well they helped me through my pregnancy and my delivery (poor mom and dad I think I almost broke my poor moms hand and I bruised the heck out of my dads hand). Travis entered this world August 15, 1996 my due date wasn't till September 23 so he was really early but my little body couldn,t hold him anymore. He was 5 pounds and 13 ounces and had a TON of hair. Amazingly he came home a week later and has been healthy as can be since then. My mom and Dad helped me through the years raising my son. We lived out at thier house till Travis was four years old. I was working at a Daycare in town and there was this cute guy who's son was in my class and all the girls that worked there liked him but he was married. Well come to find out his wife and him were getting a divorce and he was newly single and unknown to me he actually had been going to work and telling his boss about Cody's (my stepson now) teacher and how cute he thought she was. Well we started talking and I loved his son to death even before we started seeing eachother so we would talk about the boys who were the closest friends already. Well we really hit it off and had so much in common. Our boys loved being together and things were perfect so early on we talked about getting married. Well details of all that are not important but we did get married and our boys fight like brothers and defend eachother like brothers and laugh like brother and play like brothers. So my husband and i have been together for 8 years now and my parents are still there for me with all my boys but Travis has a special bond with them that non of the other Grandkids could ever have or understand. Cody is a great step son although trying at time for me we have a pretty good relationship. So my life has not turned out to be what I expected or what I dreamed it would be..... it is sooooooo much better. I still have a close relationship with my parents and i am married to a great man and I have two more boys to go with the older two. So i didn't get the beautiful white dress or the beautifully decorated church and the basic traditional marriage. What I got was much more than that. We have never been a normal family we will always be different from my brother and sister and thier families we have to juggle kids between parents or at least Cody between his mom and dad but we always work it out. I think i am one blessed mommy and step mommy. Sorry I was thinking about my boys this morning and how different things would be and probably for the worse if Travis hadn't come into my life when he did. God has a plan for that boy and we have yet to figure out what it is but you can bet it will be a leadership position no matter what it is. BTW Thanks Mom and Dad for all that you did and still do for me and my family. Hope you all have a wonderful day and take a second to smell the roses today.